Love

Ah, one of the most discussed topic in the world. I was watching the video "All About Loving You" by Bon Jovi when I remembered that I made an unofficial promise to a friend to write about it. I will write in the form of answers to FAQs that I've received. ATTENTION!: These are only my opinions, and are not meant to offend anyone, nor to serve as a guide. If you would like to express your support or disapproval, by all means please do leave comments. Thank you.

(Another thing, I am not limiting my opinions to boy-girl love unless specified)

What do you think of love?
Love is undeniably the most passed-around emotion in the world(oh, come on, you do not hate everyone everyday do you? That would be SO VERY exhausting!) It is also undeniably beautiful. Well, I am struggling for words trying to describe love. it it THAT great!

Why do we need love?
I need love, for sure. And I am very fortunate to have endless supply of it! Well, I guess it's human nature that we need a sense of belonging and assurance. Love gives us that. It tells us "I'll never leave you," "You will find comfort in me," and "I will accept you as who you are," among others. It gives us hope when we are lost. It's an asylum for our soul. It just exists within us.
We are love.

Do you have a boyfriend?
No.

Oh come on, really?
Are you hard of hearing?

Well then,have you had any?
Nope.

Seriously?
Yes, seriously.

Why don't you have a boyfriend?
Well, there are a few reasons:
1. I don't feel the need to have one.
2. It never came to me. As in love. Not "invitations"...(At this point of my life, I'm not looking for love, like some (if not most) of the people my age are).
3. I've heard many of my friends talk about the pain of the first break up, seen them cry over broken first love, etc. I have somewhat made a notion that it is too energy-consuming if I were to experience break-up, therefore I avoid it. (Ha-ha!Prevention is better than cure, they say... :)
4. I find it very hard to trust people. Out of the 100 people that I know very well(I have just estimated that number), less than 10 people receive more than 60% of my trust. However, this does not affect the closeness I feel with people.
5. It's impractical. Enough said about that.
6. It's financially constraining. Calls, SMS, outings(dates), you name it- it would leave a hole in my currently very small pocket...)
7. I have a funny feeling that I might be less committed. There are other commitments in my life, I am not sure if I would commit to a relationship. Well, not fully, anyway. So, obviously, it would be very unfair to the guy.
8. I would feel like I'm "tied" to something. I wouldn't be free to do, act and speak whatever I wish to. Apparently, a girlfriend should be a certain way. BAH!
9. I might change. (I don't know where this came from...)
10. I love my life the way it is.


Are you scared of boy-girl love, then?
Oh, God, no. Come what may. But, I am definitely on my guard.Like i said, I'm not looking. I still haven't experienced that "tingly" feeling people in love talk about. Even if I do, I'd probably lay low on the radar. (Hmmm, my mind is indeed weird stuff...)
Then again, it seems to be a wonderful experience(at least according to my experienced friends and TV shows, anyway).
Perhaps I'm not ready.

What if someone you like a lot asked you out?
We'll see what happens when it happens. I guess I'll keep my mom's words close to me:
"If you ever fall in love, make sure he's your BEST best friend." Sound advice. (Well, that was after the statement "I can't do anything if you fall in love" accompanied by a disapproving look on her face. Ha-ha! Love you, mom. :P )

Well, that's about all the questions I can remember receiving. If you have questions, please ask me and I'll try my best to give clear answers.

To all my friends and family, thank you for being a love in my life. I appreciate and love you just the way you are. If you change, I well try my very best, to not only accommodate, but also embrace the new you.

MWUACKS!

Do I Act According To My Gender? Well, Does It Matter?

I really can't stomach the fact that almost every human has a typical idea about how a lady should act(many are also vocal about it). Please read the first sentence again if you had only males in your head. Yes, even females have this idea about how a lady should behave.

Come on! It is the 21st century! Gays and lesbians are getting married no more in secrecy(more and more people accept homosexuality), so why a heterosexual lady who, uh, "has an edge" becomes a scum?

Well, on the other end of the spectrum, it seems less "harsh". The remarks of "be a man" to, uh, "sissy" guys are limited to fathers. And perhaps high school bullies.

But for ladies, it seems that almost everyone- ladies, lads, aunts, uncles, etc give a disapproving look or remark if a lady so much so raises their voice a fraction of a decibel louder, or behave a teeny bit rougher, or sit in an "inappropriate" manner.

By now, you would have guessed that I am one of those ladies. I believe that behaving in accordance to unwritten laws is a GREAT barrier to personal development and self-satisfaction. When I am not in a skirt or extremely baggy shorts, i sit in whichever way makes me comfortable. Even in school(I was in an all-girl school for the past 11 years of my life sans last year), I was one of the loud ones. So what if i like to play Counter Strike? So what if I laugh a little louder? So what if I call a friend from across the room? So what if I hold a fighter's pose(referred to as "guarding stance" on Taekwon-Do) in public? (uh, maybe not in PUBLIC public, just familiar public... you know, the "public" in which the majority knows me well)

If I refrain myself from all these, I would not be me. A fake, if you please. I would also be frustrated with life. Take this equation:
Refrained= Not 100% myself= Not 100% happy

I am very happy being the way I am, and i will change for no one but myself.